Many of us live in a fast-paced urban setting, or, a fast-paced suburban setting. In many cases we work for ourselves, we work as writers, artists, or small businesspeople. We have many burdens and many privileges. One of our privileges lets us avoid the people we don't want to interact with. I call this the "Privilege of Avoidance". It's pathetic.
John annoys me. I don't need John to sculpt, so I cut John out of my life.
Monica calls me a hypocrite. I don't think about what she means. I just won't be in the same room as Monica.
Helen makes my life miserable with her so-called humor. It's OK. I can avoid Helen for months, maybe for years.
Alexander is toxic to me. I get so sad around Alexander I begin to hate myself. Hey! I don't need Alexander. I will relate only to people I like who make me feel good about myself. And I will NOT look at myself and ask if there are reasons not to feel good about myself.
How do you handle the privilege of avoidance? Or didn't know know you could grab it for yourself? Leave a comment and let us know.
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