"In an atempt to diminish the power of my fear/anger response, I intentionally choose not to watch scary movies or hang out with people whose anger circuitry is easily set off. I consciously make choices that directly impact my circuitry. Since I like being joyful, I hang out with people who value my joy."
I wonder how you understand her words. When I think about the multi-colored tapestry of my relationships through the years, I realize that during a few periods I was one of those people who are easily angered. I am grateful for the wise and positive folks who spent some time with me while I grew beyond my issues.
I am also aware of certain consistently negative people who impacted me. Unconciously, usually, I moved away from them. I spent less time with them. I did not exclude them totally -- just maintained a healthy reserve while they were working through their stuff.
I appreciate the notion that we can monitor our internal circuitry and make wise decisions about how often and how intensely we relate to others, as well as how much time we invest in scary movies, drugging, having affairs, and other behaviors that inhibit our inner well being. Not only do I appreciate it, I believe it to be true. Not only do I believe it to be true, I believe the only person who can do this well for me is . . . me. For you . . . you.
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