As I ponder the problems people have in relationships, including the person writing this blog, I ponder silence and I ponder time. Here's how my thinking goes:
Two people have a falling out. One is angry, and cuts off communication. Totally.
The other tries a few times, and gets reamed out for trying to reconcile. She/he does not know what the problem is, but comes willing to 'own' her/his behavior that came between them. The angry person pushed away even more.
Time goes by.
The enraged person begins to feel that maybe it wasn't such a big deal after all. But she/he is ashamed. Too ashamed to reach out.
Meanwhile, the person pushed away wants to try again, but doesn't want to make the gap into a chasm.
The relationship, or lack of relationship, does not change. The long the silence continues, the harder it will be to restore or reconcile. What to do?
I mean that question: what to do?
What do you think? Have you had such an experience and a successful resolution? Leave a comment and let us know.
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