Living as humans sucks, sometimes. Our lizard brain takes over at the darndest times, and most of us give in to it without thought. I suppose that's good if you are in a jungle running from a sabre-toothed tiger, but is works out poorly in relationships.
When someone marginalizes us, we react. Oh, once in awhile we pretend to act in a civilized way, but mostly inside we are reacting. If you were hired as a manager, for instance, and then have all your managing duties assigned to someone else, you are on the margin. No sure who you are or what is expected of you. Lots and lots of older employees, no matter how competent they are, are suddenly aware they have been marginalized this way.
They might start pushing people way. They feel humiliated, useless, angry. Sad, too. PUSH. PUSH AWAY! STAY OUT OF MY SPACE!!
Or such a marginalized person might start pulling people into inappropriate closeness. "Let me tell you about how bad I have been treated," she says to anyone who will listen. It doesn't feel any better, but se think it will if we just tell one more person.
Such a person might procrastinate. "It's a mistake. I can wait it out. Surely _____ will recognize my abilities, and change his/her mind."
Lizard brain: 1. Thinking, deciding brain: 0
What are the alternatives? Are there any useful alternatives?
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